It's natural to want to be a priority in the lives of the people we care about. We may feel hurt or disappointed when we realize that we're not at the top of someone else's list. However, it's important to remember that everyone has different priorities and responsibilities, and just because we're not at the top of someone else's list doesn't mean we're not valuable or important.
In some cases, it may be that the other person simply has a lot going on in their life and can't devote as much time and attention to us as we would like. This could be due to work, family obligations, or other commitments. It's important to be understanding of these situations and not take it personally.
However, there may be situations where we realize that we're consistently not a priority in someone else's life. Perhaps they only reach out to us when they need something, or they cancel plans with us frequently. In these cases, it's important to take a step back and reevaluate the relationship.
It's not about having an ego or being selfish, but rather about having self-respect. We should value ourselves enough to recognize when a relationship is not healthy or fulfilling for us. If someone is only willing to have us in their life part-time, then they don't deserve a full-time position in our lives.
Instead of worrying about the relationship or trying to force it to work, we should focus on moving forward and finding relationships that are more balanced and fulfilling. We should surround ourselves with people who value and respect us and who are willing to invest time and effort into the relationship.
Ultimately, no one person can make our lives complete. It's up to us to find fulfillment and happiness within ourselves and our own lives. When we do that, we'll be more likely to attract healthy, positive relationships that add value to our lives.